When a boy becomes a man and a man becomes a father. :Fatherʻs Day 2015 thoughts

Hawaii has definitely been a blessing in our lives. We have really blossomed as a married couple here. I feel so comfortable with my husband. I feel so happy. Our life isnʻt perfect, but it has improved so much. We do all kinds of different things together now. I love my in-laws but I know that being around them, changes my husband. He turns into a total different person. He turns into the "KID" he used to be. I don't know who this "kid" is, It definitely was not my husband. This caused some tension between us. Hey, I know you must respect your parents, but you also have to respect your wife. The bible says...

This means that whatever WE agree to as husband and wife comes first. When you are married you are married to each other. Nobody is married to you both. Just a friendly reminder that it is OK to keep some things to yourselves. I felt sometimes he told them EVERYTHING about us which is too much information for me to handle. I didn't want to be like secretive. I just wanted to go somewhere and have real alone time with my husband Anyways, He told them alot while we were there and there were sometimes I would get mad like ,"why do you have to tell them EVERYTHING we do! " I just felt like he would tell them everything and at the same time he would "HIDE" his affection for me. When we lived on our own it wasnʻt a problem but when we were in Cali it was. 

Its just different for me because I grew up in a house where I saw my parents being affectionate with each other. Nothing crazy but I knew my father was in love with my mother and vice versa. I still see the same thing now that we have moved back. Its not a bad thing that Tongans ( at least the ones i know) Donʻt show any affection towards their wives or husbands, i am just not used to it. He is getting more comfortable showing it in front of people and its really nice. I feel wanted and loved. I also feel that he isnʻt ashamed of me or something. 

Anyways My father always showed affection that he loved my mother, we grew up that way.

SOOOOOOOOO

I want to wish my father a very happy fatherʻs day :) He is the perfect example of someone i wanted to eventually marry one day. I do believe I have found someone really close. I hope that he enjoyed his fatherʻs day because he deserves it. He has always been there for us and working for us so that we would never have to experience what he did as a child. for example, 

My father has pulled me out of bad situations from when i was a baby to now.

When I was around 2 years old. My parents took me and my 5 year old brother to one of those playground places. There was a ball pit and my brother already went down the slide and was playing in the ball pit. My parents let me go in as well. My father let me slide down and told my brother to catch me and watch me in there as well. He let go of me. I slid faster than anticipated. My brother could not catch me fast enough and I slipped right into the balls and was hidden to the naked eye. My brother was making his way over to me to pick me up when this big kid proceeded to the slide. My mum and dad rushed to the top of the slide to tell the big boy to wait but he has already started sliding. As his huge body was quickly starting to slide towards me my brother was yelling at him to stop. Unable to stop himself he landed right on top of me.

My brother rushed over to me as quickly as he could and the boy was staring at my brother. My brother yelled,"YOUR ON MY SISTER !!!". He then punched the boy in the face. The boy started crying. My dad was already trying to get the both of us out of there. He was on the slide being held by his feet by my mum. What a sight to imagine. He pulled us both out to safety with his big strong arms and held us both, my mum then wrapped her arms around us all too. 

I have heard this story my whole life and it hasnʻt hit me until now HOW much my parents are there to pull us out of any situation when we needed to be or even when we didn't want to be. 

My father with the support of my mother has pulled me out of bad situations since diaper days and i know i can count on them. I love my parents so much.  My father is wonderful, handsome, intelligent, hardworking, humble man. Thank you DAD! 

I also love my In-laws even though I might not know all the  traditions and rules. I appreciate the man that they raised. He loves me to no end. He cares for me. He is the perfect man for me. I love him more than anything. So thank you for raising your son right. I love you guys.

My mother in Law and my Sister in Law  :) Missing: my brother in law and father in law.

I want to wish my own husband a Happy Future Fatherʻs Day :)  Thank you for sacrificing a lot to better our own lives. I know you will be the best father of our kids. I love you for eternity!

Malo for reading & A hui hou! :)

The Fifitas